Every Wednesday I get to dissect a sex or relationship dream for my friends at Em and Lo: Sex, Love and Everything In Between This week’s dream is from a woman who had a rather uncomfortable dream about a family member…
In real life, my third cousin is 20 years older than me. He lived with my family until I was 6. My dad was pretty much his father figure. He is a great person (if very conservative) and has a wife and three children. In the dream I had last night I was in a long-distance relationship with my cousin. It was still pretty new, and not physical yet. We were talking on the phone, and he kept saying how he should move to my small college town so we could be together. I was really hesitant (trying to avoid getting more serious) about wanting him nearby and tried to convince him that a nearby (and larger) city would be better for his career. Needless to say, no one in the family knew about the relationship. Help!
Lauri: Fear not! Your dream does not suggest you have a any suppressed, incestuous desires to bed or wed your cousin. An important rule to remember when figuring out your dreams is that the people in your dreams are actually some symbolic part of you. So your dream is not about your cousin but about what he represents to you. You described him as conservative. Is there a part of you that is conservative financially, socially or politically? Or is it that he represents family, and you are conflicted as to whether you are ready to go down that road yet. In the dream the relationship was a secret. In real life, do you have conservative views or issues you haven’t shared? Or is there something else you are keeping on the down-low? You discuss his career in the dream so this may very well be connected to YOUR career in waking life. Maybe a family of your own would curtail your career at the moment. Whatever the case, your hesitance in the dream suggests you are hesitant about opening up about something in real life… and where a dream ends is usually where the message is. Your dream may be telling you that there is something you may be better off keeping to yourself or keeping your distance from.
Response from dreamer: Thank you so much for interpreting this! I do have two issues that sound completely at odds right now. I’m in a relationship that is a little frustrating because we never communicate and it doesn’t seem to be going anywhere. I’m worried it never will. Because physical involvement has been low, I haven’t had a need to tell him I’m a virgin (and that it’s not for religious reasons). Because of past experiences, I am extremely nervous about doing so. At the same time, I am going to a specialist to see how much current medical problems will affect my ability to have children in the future. In many ways, I do feel like I have a double (or triple) life. Whew, now I don’t have to feel awkward when my cousin comes to visit!
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I actually had sex with my cousin twice and it was great. Only regrets are that it only happened twice and that I didn’t get her pregnant. I wish that second time it happened when she was on top of me riding me I would have had the courage to ask her to be my girlfriend and got her pregnant. Then we could have spent the rest of our lives together. That is my life’s wish
I had a dream out of nowhere that I kissed and was dating my cousin. However, he and I only ever hung out once and it was for church a year ago I was with him and a friend of mine little sister and he was flipping rubber bands at us so we did it to get back at him later that night he said “Quit flirting with me” I replied “I am Not flirting with you were related” and proceeded to walk away he is now in the army and had posted a pic of him looking not the best on Facebook and a week later I had a dream he kissed me several times and we got into a romantic relationship. What does this mean I am the only one besides you who now knows this and to be quite honest I have no idea what to do with this information or to know what it really means.
I had a dream about my first cousin ,that I m totally in love and want to marry him.my family is against this and my father is indirectly scolding me for that in the same dream the cousin is keep trying to convince my father that don’t go from our place be here so that he can get some more time to.convince him for our marriage then suddenly in the dream only I realized that oh he is my brother how can I marry him there and that’s why my father is telling I should not do but at the same time there was a marriage going on in the dream of some other people’s don’t know who for that occasion we are were there together(because we actually never went for any marriage together as far as I remember), but in reality I am not at all close with that same cousin rather I quite hate him because of his behaviour towards he is not a nice person according to me why I saw that dream please let me know?
Hello laurie, just wondering if you can give me some tips,advices and suggestions. lately i have been constantly having dreams about my own cousin. sexual and romantic relationships of and about him. i’m scared. it’s creeping me out and im really freaked out, i really don’t know what happening to me it’s constant series dream about him every night. and i feel very lost and uncomfortable with these dream. the cousin im talking about is 15 yrs old he just turned 15 and im 16 yrs old. he’s the second youngest cousin in my family. i really need help here i need some advices or tips… it’s creeping me out
Thank you so much for this message I had a dream just like yours and felt pretty awkward and gross and he is coming next week to hangout and I would have felt so weird around him but now I’m at ease cause me and my cousin are so close in age and are really close it reality i could never imagine wanting to date my cousin even if in my dream it didn’t directly say he was my cousin in the dream in reality he is
Thanks for submitting this dream to the woman who dreamt it! I have had similar dreams about a cousin as well, and at the time, I did not know why. It makes a person feel sort of creepy until you get why your mind is showing it to you!